Many of you may remember that since January of 2023,  I’ve been offering Monthly Office Hours for my current and former clients.

We share both the wins in their respective job searches and we’re 100% real about all the hard parts. Full transparency, there are many.

But they absolutely feel less hard when 1) you have a plan and 2) you’re part of a community.

That’s what we’ve built in Office Hours – and btw – we laugh a lot. At ourselves. And at the shit that only makes sense to other humans humaning along the often unhuman process that is getting a job.

In July, we experimented with opening up Office Hours to people who have not yet worked with me – and it was a rowdy and supportive crew! There were thoughtful questions, strangers sharing their expertise and wisdom – and reminders that you don’t need to be alone in this.

I like to call that – a success.

So, we’re doing it again next Monday, October 2 @ 12 PM ET.

If you haven’t worked with me in the past (and don’t get the Office Hours invites), click the button below to sign up!

Bring your questions, your job searching wisdom and your willingness to help others through the hard.

Looking forward to seeing you there!

Early on in my business, in addition to my 1:1 work, I facilitated 2-hour workshops on Executive Presence to rooms filled with aspiring women leaders.

At the time, I felt my own impostor syndrome sneaking up – standing in front of 30 women, telling them to focus on eye contact, watch their filler words and reign in their body language – when I was struggling with the very same “challenges.”

While I absolutely believed in my mission to advance women into positions of power and I knew this was part of the work to get them to “fit into these roles” and “play the part” there was always something about the work that felt uncomfortable for me.

Reading this now – the problems seem so obvious, but full transparency, 8 years ago – it wasn’t clear. I thought there was something a little bit wrong with me for struggling to conform to the “Executive Presence” standards set for me. Just as I was telling these women, there was something a little bit wrong with them.

That they had to change themselves to fit the culture.

Be something that wasn’t who they were.

What I see now is that this discomfort was leading me somewhere important. A place I needed to grow.

A place where I was enough. I was worthy of being who I am and sharing my message in my way.

And the patriarchal systems that don’t support me, accept me, require that I stay small – must change.

What does it look like to break the rules of Executive Presence as we’ve been taught so we can show up with Authentic Presence?

Do we truly need to pretend to be white men to lead, or can we use our gifts without bending who we are, inspiring others to do the same?

Showing up authentically requires walking directly into the fire of fear, realizing–not everyone is going to like it and you don’t need to be for everyone.

I can be here for the people who are here for me. And it’s enough.

School is finally back in session for us New Yorkers who are the very last to return in the country. 

For me and many others I’m connecting with, there’s a familiar wave of grief. 

A chapter closing on a nourishing slower pace, travel and adventures, an abundance of family time and a dip in stress levels. 

A glimmer of possibility for how life all year round could be different. 

There are clues for you, your career and your life in those possibilities. Now is your moment to mine them and be intentional about small tweaks you can make to access that summer vibe.

So, if you’re someone who is feeling that sadness about the end of summer, sit down and brainstorm a list of everything you loved and even liked about how it all went. 

And then choose two of those things that you’re able to intentionally build into your career this fall and ongoing. 

Did you schedule more in-person coffee dates and lunches with your people?  

Did you naturally have more buffer between meetings because colleagues were on vacation?

Did you have more time for deep thinking projects? 

There’s much we can learn from the change of seasons and just like a career transition–the change doesn’t have to mean that we’re starting fresh. We can bring a few gems along with us, to sturdy us and keep us whole amidst the shift. 

After one of my favorite summers of all time–I’m feeling both loss and gratitude for what I’m leaving behind. 

Yet, I’m stepping into fall with the muscle memory of freedom and play and release of control that made this summer unique. 

The work to come is intentionally building these elements into my daily life when the culture around me is bringing their Big Fall Energy. 

More details on results will follow, but for now I’m off to an outdoor coffee date with a colleague in the last days of my sandals and flowy skirts. 

As you may remember, in recent months, I’ve been on a journey to heal my relationship with food and my body. I’m learning to practice a more intuitive and trust-based approach to food and releasing all of the millions of rules I’ve learned my entire life from different flavors of diet and wellness culture. 

It’s liberating: I’m  grateful for all of those additional hours back in my day, my energy and the creativity that shows up when you’re not starving.  

And it’s also terrifying: it means I’m giving up some of the power and privilege that comes along with having a “thin” body in our culture.

If you haven’t thought about how thinness is connected to power, keep reading…and of course listening to all of the experts whose labor and brilliance in this area of education I continue to lean on for support. 

With that TED Talk completed, I’m thrilled to share 1) A roundup of podcast episodes with Black experts in the field who are leading the way in this work and don’t have their own podcasts. 2) Some of my favorite podcasts supporting all of us Anti-Dieters from afar. 

My favorite interviews with brilliant Black women leading this movement: 

• Sonya Renee Taylor, author of The Body Is Not An Apology  on We Can Do Hard Things

• Sabrina Strings, Sociologist and author of Fearing The Black Body on The Nod 

• Jessica Wilson MS, RD and author of It’s Always Been Ours on Full Plate

• Chrissy King, author of The Body Liberation Project  on The Balanced Black Girl
  

My favorite anti-diet podcasts where I learned about most of the above experts: 

Maintenance Phase  

Aubrey Gordon and Michael Hobbes are the OG’s of Anti-Diet Podcasting. They dispel countless myths and lies of Diet and Wellness Culture that we often simply accept as fact. Their BMI and “Obesity” Epidemic episodes are wonderful primers for those just getting started in this deprogramming.

Full Plate 

The incredibly compassionate Anti-Diet Nutritionist, Abbie Attwood creates space for Anti-Diet practitioners to share their expertise AND also vulnerably tell their stories of how disordered eating and relationships with exercise have impacted their lives. She’s both present and quirky so conversations often go to fun and unexpected places and I always feel like I walk away with some new angle to think about this work. 

Food Heaven Podcast 

Sadly this podcast recently ended, but there are many fantastic episodes to check out from their archives. BFF’s and registered dietitian nutritionists Wendy Lopez and Jessica Jones talk to different health & nutrition experts living more balanced lives–from an inclusive - Health At Every Size (HAES) lens

Burnt Toast

Virginia Sole Smith, author of the recent book - Fat Talk and the Burnt Toast substack newsletter creates this thoughtful and expansive podcast where she interviews activists, nutritionists, MD’s, therapists, Fat Liberation artists, researchers–the list goes on. I’ve learned about so many of the experts I’m following from this podcast and her spotlight on parenting truly hits home for this mom wanting to do all the things differently with my kids around food and body. 

Honorable Mentions…

In an effort to force myself to edit, I haven’t included summaries of all of the podcasts that are helping me on this journey and yet I couldn’t help myself from including these others that are also excellent, but either have ended or don’t come out as regularly. 

• Can I Have Another Snack With Laura Thomas, Anti-diet Nutritionist

• Eat the Rules with Summer Innanen, Body Image Coach and author of Body Image Remix.

• Food Psych Podcast with Christy Harrison, RD, MPH, CEDS and author of Anti-Diet and The Wellness Trap

This work takes awhile to sink in. It’s disruptive. It flies in the face of most of what we will hear from our people. So, I encourage you to find community, support and all the podcasts. If you are listening to any that I’ve missed, please send along. 

I appreciate you. As you are.

In the past few years I’ve learned a thing or two about my energy and how it relates to my work.

I’m close to equal parts introvert and extrovert so I love my alone time for deep thinking, writing, rest and of course baby + dog videos.

AND – I must, must build in time to connect with friends and colleagues during the week – outside of my client sessions. Fun and learning with other humans is my favorite sport.

This is the dance I weave through my calendar weekly and when I’m on my game, feeling flow and momentum in my work – I know I’ve hit the magic formula.

And then there are the times when I feel depleted, my throat is sore from talking, I forget to do something for the kids or I say to myself – I just need to make it through today.

Uhm, no.

Those are the days I know I bought into the systems that want me to be productive, to get one more thing done, to push myself past my limits at my own expense.

It’s at those times that I deploy one of my favorite tools to return to peace and my way of managing time.

I commune with my calendar and embrace the beauty of the buffer.

For all of my Chief sessions, I block out 30 minutes on each end.

If I have a two hour corporate workshop, I block out the ENTIRE day. Yes, I said that.

I love the experience of my workshops and I’m grateful to make such a big impact on a large audience at one time. And also – it’s a tremendous energy output for this introvert/extrovert and I do best when I have the time to put myself back together and rest.

I also block out every morning until 10am so I have time to ease into the day. I am not and will never be a morning person. I have stopped expecting to ever have a “Miracle Morning.” Miracles are reserved for self-awareness and calling out patriarchy when I see it.

If your days are stacked with meetings, start cutting your meetings to 45 minutes and blocking 15 minutes for yourself in-between.

Add a 30 minute lunch break. You are worthy of rest, recharge and a few minutes to swallow your sandwich!

Book a vacation day or half day after work travel.

Reclaim your time little by little and if you’re on the hunt for your next opportunity, look for cultures where breaks are the norm and you can embrace the buffer.

When I do group coaching work I see that it can be exactly what people need to realize they’re…

Not alone

Worthy of wanting more

Human.

There’s power in being in community with others who are struggling with the same life questions and unraveling the context of how they fit or if they fit into some of the more challenging cultures that make up our career landscapes.

There’s witnessing others’ raw realizations and in those moments finding your own answers.

There’s adulting wisdom from new and different perspectives.

And my favorite – there are connections to people and opportunities outside of the small circles we keep in this post-pandemic world.

Given all of this goodness, I’ve been wanting to give you a heads up on the timing for my next two groups.

I don’t like to do things small over here – so registration for both groups will open up in December and we kick off in January. I know – that sounds like a ways off – but keep in mind that I only run both of them once a year – so if you’ve been wanting to go this route, this is your opportunity.

You can join either of the waitlists now so that you can be the first to learn about the group and reserve your spot before registration opens for the rest of my subscribers.

For career transitioners and job searchers….

The Career Command Four-Month Shift Includes:

• The Career Command Process - 10+ Modules of my signature career pathing process, supported by videos, worksheets, and resources

• Curated Career Pods that meet monthly

• Weekly Live Video Support Calls (Thursdays at 12 PM ET)

• One 60-minute 1:1 coaching session

• Resume and LinkedIn Audit

• Access to my monthly Office Hours Networking sessions

Join the Four-Month Shift Waitlist here!

For women leaders looking for community and support…

NEXT: Career Crew includes:

• Career Crews are groups of 8-10 women who meet virtually once a month to build each other up, hold space to say the hard things about career and life, share wise advice and remind each other that we are worthy of all of our career desires.

• Discussion topics in 2023 include: Boundaries, Networking, Authentic Work, and Compensation/Negotiation.

• Commitment is for 12 months starting in January 2024.

Join the NEXT: Career Crew Waitlist here!

Let me know if you have questions and I promise you will be learning more about these groups later in 2023.

In 2015, when I started my business, I spent a lot of time and experimented with MANY tools to take the leap, to believe in myself and to know in my bones that this whole vision was possible.

Beyond the hours of training and certification, practice and feedback from mentors – I found my own rituals to rev my energy and to take the essential risks required for change.

One of these is something I still use 8 years later.

It’s free. It’s fun. And it gets results.

It’s your Power Song, people!

In the early days – and for the entire first years of my business – my Power Song was “Brave” by the incomparable, Sara Bareilles.

Before each potential client session, I reserved 5 minutes for my Brave dance party.

Then I expanded the ritual to dance it out before corporate partnership conversations and other high stakes meetings.

It felt both disruptive and empowering to be a little wild before these buttoned up chats and frankly, it reminded me of who I am and why I chose this path.

The feeling in my body was always the same.

Alive. Worthy. All the way lit up.

It shook me loose from my death grip on my mind and allowed me to BE, to be me, to speak from my gut and from all of the internalized preparation.

After a while – I only used the Power Song for something new – like my first Chief meeting or my first in-person workshop after lockdown.

And the songs have changed over the years. Dancing On My Own, Dog Days Are Over, Empire State of Mind and Juice, because Lizzo!

I recommend a Power Song to all of my clients as they prep for interviews or negotiate or resign after getting the big next job. Have you ever tried 9 to 5?

Why not make leveling up fun?

Please, share your Power Song with me so I can begin putting a rev up playlist together and let me know how it worked for you!

You may remember that I offer a 30-minute Complimentary Clarity Call to potential clients who think they may want to work with me.

In that call, my job is to truly listen and to give the human in front of me an opportunity to be heard.

It’s also crucial for me to be fully who I am, coach how I coach, and to clearly articulate what I offer and what I don’t.

In my program, I include a career transition framework with a series of tools that help people find their answers and create a plan to go after what they want.

The clients who want to work with me often say, “I LOVE the structure. It helps me understand what concrete things we can accomplish together.”

And then there are those who hear all about my offering. We have a lovely conversation and when I follow up they say, “Your program has TOO much structure for me.”

Completely valid. And good that they know what they need.

The exciting news is that there are MANY skilled and inspiring coaches out there. They are my colleagues, my community and I refer them often.

What’s important for you, as the client, is to think about WHAT you need and WHO you need to help you.

Three things I recommend considering when you choose a coach are…

1. Style

What kind of person tends to motivate you the most? Who do you respond best to in a challenging or vulnerable moment? I would call my style compassionate tough love with space for both tears and laughter. Some people need a bit more of a tougher edge than I provide and still others are looking for more time to talk about feelings and where they’re stuck. I recommend you trust your intuition on whether or not you feel chemistry with your coach.

2. Specific expertise

Where do you want to focus your energy in this coaching engagement? What are your goals? I focus on Career Transition Coaching and no longer offer Leadership or Executive Coaching. Some of my colleagues are Business Coaches and Public Speaking Coaches. You can probably name a type of coach you’re looking for these days and find someone.

3. Unique gifts and offerings

Are there nice-to-haves that would sweeten the deal for you? Would it be nice if someone came from a specific industry prior to coaching? I love connecting people so I’m often creating a community in my Office Hours, pairing up clients for accountability or introducing clients to my own network for conversations. It’s one of the things that my clients don’t necessarily expect from their coach, but love that they get this as a bonus.

As with job searching, finding the right coach is truly about fit. If you can’t decide among all of the coaches you’ve spoken with – my guess is you don’t currently have the bandwidth or desire for coaching OR you haven’t met the right one.

If you think you’re ready and we may be a fit, feel free to schedule a Clarity Call with me at the end of August when I return from vacation.